8 August, 2019
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Discover How To Fulfil Your Sexual Fantasies

8 August, 2019

What happens when fantasy becomes reality?

What would you like to experience sexually if you and your partner were brave enough? Our erotic mind craves the new and unknown, which is why exploring your sexual fantasies should be the next new thing you incorporate into your bedroom play.

The great thing about fantasies is that they take time to explore. What better excuse to dive into the world of pleasure for an hour… or three? What’s more, exploring your sexual fantasies doesn’t necessarily mean having intercourse. Consider it an opportunity to get creative and think outside the box.

Stuck on where to begin? Keep reading to discover how to let go of your inhibitions and fulfil those fantasies once and for all.

Read more: How To Experience Orgasmic Bliss

Fantasies Are Just Fantasies

First of all, it’s important to distinguish whether or not you really want to live out your fantasies. You see, not all fantasies should become reality. For instance, think about some of your non-sexual fantasies; just because you’re contemplating lashing out at a colleague due to frustrations at work doesn’t mean you’d actually do it. Sexual fantasies operate the same way – some are better played out in your mind. Asking yourself in-depth questions is the only way to get a better understanding of what you truly want to experience and what you don’t.

How To Release Shame

Diving deep into your erotic psyche can help you feel free in a way you’ve never felt before. Do you crave to be touched and passionately ravished? Or maybe you’d like to be tied up and explore the unknown? No matter what your fantasy may be, don’t let shame hold you back from sexual liberation.

To counter these feelings, you need to ask yourself where your shame is coming from. Is it rooted in your parental, religious, societal or other incompatible beliefs? Did someone shame you in the past for wanting to explore something you desired? Now’s the time to remind yourself that it’s ok – sex isn’t bad and you’re allowed to explore.

When it comes to sexual fantasies, many people tend to ask themselves “why do I like this, and why do I like that?”. But why waste time second guessing yourself, when you can move into acceptance instead. Generally speaking, asking “why” comes from a place of shame and guilt. You do not need to seek permission from the outside world. It is your journey, so go ahead and enjoy it!

Read more: How To Feel Sensually Empowered

How To Communicate Your Sexual Fantasies

It takes courage to openly talk about your sexual desires without fear of rejection or negativity. However, honest communication is key. Without it, your sexual relationship will stay limited, and most probably leave you feeling that something is missing.

A sincere and truthful conversation is a great way to leave judgment out of the bedroom and meet each other with open minds. They may not all be the fantasies you both want to explore, but hearing one another out and letting the other person know how you feel about trying new things is an excellent way to build mutual comfort and confidence.

One of the best ways to engage in honest communication is to take turns in letting each other know about some of the things you would like to try. Begin by sharing something small, and then build your way up to the juicer taboo things. When you both start to open up, you’ll both feel vulnerable, creating a safe place to truly express yourselves.

Consent, Boundaries And Sex

Safe, sane and consensual sex is the secret to exploring your sexual fantasies with confidence! If you’re going to explore your fantasies, it has to be a big enthusiastic “yes” from both parties. Beyond this, make sure you establish agreed language, techniques and boundaries before you begin. Not knowing the limits makes the whole experience unpleasant and uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Exploring Your Pathways To Arousal

We’re all uniquely erotically wired. This in turns means that we all have a unique pathway to arousal (find out yours by taking this quiz). Nevertheless, whatever sparks your desire, storytelling by way of using the right sex language is a fantastic way to get into your erotic psyche. If you want to explore a naughtier fantasy, try having your partner take charge and let them guide the encounter verbally. Using dominant commands can create a highly charged erotic environment. Or perhaps you’ve been dreaming about exploring different types of physical sensations? In that case, why not get your lover to surprise you by using a blindfold. Mixing up the different types of touches, tickles, strokes, caresses or spanks can further be a huge turn on for many.

Toys are another good way to play out your fantasies. Handcuffs, whips, paddles, feathers – feel free to use anything that will make you moan for more. Just remember to consider trust and communication if you’re planning to play around with physical restraint. Ensure you have a pre-agreed safe word so you know when the session needs to slow down or stop. Despite the control element, it’s important to keep things consensual, safe, and mutually pleasurable.

Struggling to think of a sexual fantasy to live out? Try reading some erotic stories together to come up with ideas. Really, the menu of sensual play is infinite. There’s a big world of sexual exploration out there, and by opening yourself up to all the possibilities, you’ll find yourself with a sex life that’s fulfilling, liberating and empowering.

Thank you to the talented Tina Maria Elena for her beautiful images! You can follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

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